​Loving Your Teenager (In Spite of Themselves) Part 2 of 7 - Sense of Humour

​Loving Your Teenager (In Spite of Themselves) Part 2 of 7 - Sense of Humour

Treasure Tower Rewards Canada on 2023 Mar 10th

Loving Your Teenager (In Spite of Themselves) Part 2 of 7 - Sense of Humour
by © Judith Tramayne-Barth


is so important, especially when your little sweetheart is ranting, raving and having a _ _ _ _ fit for no reason other than you are breathing in their space. Yes, you can choose to let them get to you, but then they're in control of the situation, not you.

No, what you should do in this situation is merely smile or even laugh. Once they realize they're not upsetting you, they'll do one of two things. Say "you're hopeless" and stomp off in a huff, leaving you with peace and quiet (not a bad thing) or they'll ask you why you're smiling. You then answer, "I was thinking how much you remind me of myself when I was your age."

This should stop them in their tracks — "Like their mother or father — oh yuk". Just watch their behavior change. The whole point of rebelling is to be different. With one little statement, you've taken away their motivation. Chances are they will try to upset you again, so you'll smile your little knowing smile and before long, they'll get the message:

You can't be their victim if you're smiling.

And if you consciously think back to your teen years, your teen is probably no worse than you were. Maybe just a teensy bit more spoiled but who's to blame for that? The object here is to survive their hormonal changes while coping with your own. A sense of humor will do that. It will lighten your load considerably. True there is acceptable and unacceptable behavior; but, if your child is merely running off at the mouth occasionally and not doing drugs or drinking, consider yourself lucky.

A mouthy teenager is only trying to assert their independence. The same goes for their hair and clothes. If both are clean, why should you care? Your friends will understand, they are either sharing your dilemma or have already gone through it. The key to understanding your teenager is (check out part 3 coming soon):